Unmoored

What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?

The concept of ‘having it all’ implies an appreciation of what is also ‘moderate’ and what is ‘minimal’. It also assumes a type of thinking process based on linear measure. There are numerous theories as to the origins of this type of thought (too numerous for this blurb) but it is fundamental in our modern Western way of life. Everything is measured and compared, everything is scrutinised and evaluated from numbers of grains of sand, kilometres travelled to the size of the universe. How much have you got in the bank? How tall are you? How pretty or influential are you? Science, engineering and technology are each based on specific terms of measurable analysis bringing us closer and closer to what would appear to be greater appreciation and understanding. Similarly, sport and artistic endeavour are measurable when applied to competition providing supply for the gambling industry. But the fallout is severe with addiction and personal financial loss.

However there is another way of living, another way of seeing that is quieter and seems to go unnoticed in today’s noise. Terms such as ’go slow’, ‘vibration’ and ‘present’ reflect something else that is gaining traction. There is nothing new in this of course. Writers such as Eckhart Tolle focus on contemporary dilemmas and reveal how we fall victim to abstract thinking. Burkeman in Four Thousand Weeks speaks of our artificial appreciation of time: ‘this strange moment in history, when time feels so unmoored, might in fact provide the ideal opportunity to reconsider our relationship with it.’

YouTube

How do you use social media?

In the early day of social media I was drawn to YouTube because it seemed different. Videos were a bit amateurish and fun and you felt connected to the people that made them. Of course this has changed just as the internet itself has changed. With increasing corporate interest and with AI, much of it is indistinguishable from mainstream media. Now of course, YouTube is a behemoth. There are videos of every conceivable subject from the sublime to the ridiculous (and everything in between). The offbeat content is still there but so is the informative including news channels and informed opinion otherwise inaccessible from mainstream media. It is the opportunity to see this nuanced and alternative opinion that’s interesting. There are channels featuring those with like minded interests by the zillion and you can easily fall into the time wastage trap. And herein lies the paradox: are you able to consciously monitor the content, or are you merely a passive recipient of algorithm‑driven material? Is the content actually constructive in the sense that it is informative or is it really reinforcing set narratives? Are you subject to increasingly addictively driven content that you are unable to resist? Maybe you can find the answers on YouTube 🙂

Cat people

Which animal would you compare yourself to and why?

I have a lovely drawing of lions hanging above my bed and by way of familiarity, I associate with them. It’s mum’s drawing from her art school days. She would have been seventeen at the time and displays her innate talent for life drawing. I have various ‘zoo’ drawings of hers including pen & ink and graphite drawings. She would go on to top art school on graduation.

It’s strange because my association with big cats seems to morph between lions, leopards and tigers for reasons unknown to me. Don’t get me wrong – I don’t pretend to be a ‘cat person’ nor do I mingle with the pride risking life and limb. Besides, in today’s rather liberated world, animal association seems harmless enough. There are numerous examples of this kind of thing in anthropology. For instance, ritual dancing in animal costumes exists in South India and Vietnam (tiger and lion dancing). And there are examples in movies such as The Wizard of Oz, The Lion King and Cat People. I don’t pretend to understand this phenomenon but maybe there is something we subjectively appreciate. 

Mum’s drawing depicts a male lion and a cub. What is the narrative here? The adult is protecting the newborn. It seems only natural. So what could possibly threaten the infant with it’s parent apex predator? As it turns out, each member of the pride has specific roles and adheres to strict survival demands. But how could this be? The male lion seems to waste his time yawning and lazing around all day and not appearing to do much. Maybe the occasional roar and then lapsing into soporific, pleasurable napping while the lionesses go out to hunt (what a lazy bum, he should pull his weight and do his fair share etc – by way of human association). Turns out he hunts at night and must conserve energy to protect the pride from threatening rival males. 🦁😸

Gratitude

So if you reframe your perception of experience to include gratitude it is possible to shift from a negative to a positive attitude. If you allow this to happen enough in everyday experiences, a subtle but fundamental change can occur in your personality. Those around you respond to your positivity, and they in turn take on positive energy – a kind of flow from one person to another. Conversely, the opposite may occur whereby negativity flows from one individual to the next. We see this increasingly occurring on the internet, especially on social media. In turn, there is a flow of negative energy in the wider community from the virtual world to the real world. Interpreting ideas, concepts, situations or experiences can include positive or negative evaluation. A choice can be made to see things positively. Without meaning to sound too grandiose, we need to energise ourselves and the community in positive ways. Ultimately and depending on the intensity of our experiences, we can reframe them positively.